Domestic violence takes up a big proportion of family challenges. However, most of the violence in the home that has been researched has mostly been focused on women and children, but it has been found that men also face violence in their homes.
Every case of domestic abuse should be taken seriously and each individual provided access to the support they need. All victims should be able to access appropriate support.
Whilst both men and women may experience incidents of interpersonal violence and abuse, women are considerably more likely to experience repeated and severe forms of abuse, including sexual violence.
According to research, men are also more likely to have experienced sustained physical, psychological or emotional abuse, or violence which results in injury or death.
Currently, a middle age woman has been arraigned in court and charged with allegedly beating her husband to death for refusing to open the door to him when returned home at night.
According to prosecution reports, the accused by the name Damaris Mumbua came home late and request her husband to open the door for her, but he refused. She pushed the door from outside and enters the room and beats her husband to death.
When pleading with the court to forgive her, the accused blamed their husband for being rude to her on that particular night of the incident.
She said: “It would always start with him being verbally aggressive. It was always about me being disloyal, and he would say ‘You never loved me anyway’. He called me a ‘thing’ like I wasn’t a person.
“It would escalate, and he would shake me most of the time, he strangled me sometimes, and I would go unconscious occasionally. Other times I would be semi-conscious, and I would be on the bed or the floor and if he were really angry, he would kick me.”
She said he once grabbed her round the throat in a row over a coffee, and on another occasion suffocated her until she was unconscious after a dispute over a cheeseboard. She said if she did not want love, “he would put his hands over my mouth, and we would have pleasure”.