Jordan, my son, is 27. When he was 16, his stepmother, "Natalie," came into his life. When he was 13, his mother had died.
Jordan didn't really think of Natalie as his mother. He wouldn't let her get close to him, and every time she tried, he stopped her. Even after Natalie and I got married, he moved in with his aunt for a while.
As time went on, they got back together and started seeing each other more often. We were invited to his wedding, which happened a few days ago.
Natalie told him what had happened at the wedding, which made him feel "irritated and very upset" before he decided to leave.
"My family called me after they saw me leave. "Jordan called me later, and I told him why I did it," the dad wrote.
He got angry and said that it was his wedding and that his aunt is like his mother. He told Natalie that she shouldn't expect "special treatment" because it was his wedding.
"I said that it's not special treatment but a tradition. Aside from that, he hurt her feelings for no other reason than to be mean. He was angry, and he said I ruined his day and made a scene.
"Now his family has taken his side and said I shouldn't have left no matter what," she said.
The father then went to Reddit and asked, "Am I a jerk for missing my son's wedding?"
Redditors had a hard time seeing things from the dad's point of view and wrote long replies saying that his wife could never replace his son's mother.
"You can't make people get along." One person wrote, "You and Natalie need to accept that Jordan accepts Natalie in his life, but not as a mother figure, before he stops having either of you in his life."
"Your wife has never been his mother, and he has every right to refuse to dance with her as a mother and son. Another person said, "I'm pretty sure this isn't the first time you've put your wife before your son, which is probably why he moved in with his aunt.
"It sounds like the son was beginning to get to know her. "Congratulations on ruining all the hard work your wife and son did to get along," a third person said.