Dear GhanaWeb: I believe my husband is losing interest in our sex life

I have been married to my husband for seven years. We are in our 30s with two children. We have a good relationship, however, our sex life has been lukewarm for years, and despite some haphazard and short-lived efforts to either “talk about it” or even “spice it up” with toys or new positions, I know that my husband is unsatisfied.

I was in my "sexual awakening" period when we first started dating. I began having sex later than most of my peers, so I had many sexual partners very quickly.

When I met my now-husband, I no longer needed sex to validate his interest in me or my value as a sexual being. As a result, I never translated my association with sex as a form of validation into sex as an expression of love.

I love my husband so much and really want to fix this, but I have no idea where to start!

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