Since time immemorial, Fathers have come under scrutiny for not doing enough when it comes to being responsible for the upbringing of children.
We often hear stories blaming fathers in absentia for children's bad behavior, society diagnosing a lack of the firm disciplinarian they so sorely needed to keep them in line. But people rarely talk about what the value of a good father is.
Gender norms are slowly dying, lines are slowly blurring, and the good fathers are unafraid to do whatever it takes to be the Dad their children need in their lives, because regardless of how society thinks a father is supposed to act, a real father provides for his family.
The past decade has probably seen a transformation in fatherhood, where there was an abomination for a father to do certain things with their children, you see for instance, fathers carrying their children to church and carrying them on their shoulders throughout service. This rarely happened in previous generations of fathers. Could it be that these new breed of fathers are learning to move away from what was the norm???
Family's still important, and there're still fathers around interested in seeing their kids grow. Of course, there are still bad nuts, but it's time to stop treating fathers like secondary figures in their children’s' lives and show them they too have a place in the world of parenting.
It's also time to stop acting like fathers are parenting invalids, applauding when they're doing what they should be doing, whether it's learning how to braid hair, fixing a diaper or rocking a frightened baby to sleep. It's really time to stop putting the spotlight on the fathers choosing not to stay in their children's lives no matter how many fathers do it, shirking parental responsibility isn't the norm and we need to stop giving power to the idea.
We need to stop acting like all fathers are destined to fail. Parenthood is hard for mothers and fathers alike; once we recognize that we're in it together, only then can we start building a parenting model that truly captures all the challenges parents’ face, instead of trying to choose sides in an unnecessary battle.
Moans and Cuddles Episode 8, put the spotlight on a group of young fathers who shared their amazing fatherhood journey with us, on how they blend their busy schedules and their fatherly roles to be the best fathers they can be.
Watch the full episode below, and Happy Father’s Day to All our lovely Fathers from the Moans and Cuddles Team, Enjoy this Day!
