Sexual infidelity is considered the ultimate betrayal which disrupts a meaningful relationship or marriage, it stirs up strife and most often than not, leads to a breakup.
It’s the exact situation of one Ghanaian woman who feels she was deceived into marrying her husband and has confided in relationship expert David Papa Bondze-Mbir on Facebook.
The woman who sent her story to the inbox of David Papa Bondze-Mbir on Facebook on the condition of anonymity revealed that her husband is not sexually attracted to her but only loves the idea of having her as a wife.
"I don't think my husband was meant for me. He likes the idea of having me as his wife. I also think he thinks he is in love with me. I feel he was also rushed into marrying me", she said.
She continued that though she suspected her husband's sexual attraction to men before the marriage, she couldn't be sure until they got married.
"My husband likes men more than he is into women. I had always suspected it but I couldn't be sure until we married".
Now she desires a man who is attracted to her breast and nakedness and would want to play with my clitoris and 'Vjay'
Read her full message below:
"David, I know you may be surprised I'm the one actually sending in this, but I trust you wouldn't treat my message any differently?
I don't think my husband was meant for me. He likes the idea of having me as his wife. I also think he thinks he is in love with me. I feel he was also rushed into marrying me. He's not done anything really wrong to me, however, I'd wish he could be true to himself.
My husband likes men more than he is into women. I had always suspected it but I couldn't be sure until we married. Dave, he's a nice guy and I don't have any problems with him being 'that', however, that's not the kind of man I would want to spend the rest of my life with. I want to be with a STRAIGHT man. A man who is attracted by my breast and nakedness, and would want to play with my clito and Vjay.
I don't want him to feel embarrassed about who I know he is, though he is always trying so hard to cover up. He is a nice guy, and I know he will find someone his type to love him the way he would want to be loved. I just don't want to continue being his 'lie' in the name of marriage.
I want to be with a man who is into women, not a man who pretends to be into women.
Would it be right to file for a divorce or I need to talk with him to consider setting me free? I know he will deny being interested in men, but I know he is. And, as a matter of fact, I don't even care if he denies it, I am not interested in his kind. I want to find a man after my own heart.
I think I married him because we had been very good friends. We didn't live together while dating, sex wasn't a part of our dating. We just liked each other as great friends and ended up being together.
And because we've not been married for long, I am afraid to bring up the conversation of a divorce. It might scare him. That said, I don't want to endure and stay in this marriage just to make him happy either. I am not happy. I don't enjoy the sex with him. He doesn't even want to have sex with me a lot of the time. I made a terrible mistake by not keeping off initially, when I suspected his sexuality. Now that I want out, I am not certain of the right approach to use.
Do I talk to my pastor about it? Do I open up to one of his relatives or mine to confront him? Do I talk to his close friend to let him know? Do I get proof of who I know he is, in order to file for a divorce? I am not certain as to what would be the best approach to this issue.
I want a divorce."
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